Watching your child take the first steps into adulthood is exciting; however, many parents struggle emotionally with this change. So-called empty nest syndrome can lead to feelings of loneliness and depression that should not be ignored. Here, licensed professional counselor Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP of Rochester, NY, explains how you can cope.

How to Manage Empty Nest Syndrome

1. Embrace the Positive

Remind yourself that your child’s departure is a new opportunity for you, too. From travel to social activities, there are many things you can do now that you probably did not have time for previously. This is a chance to redefine your life and yourself, expanding beyond the role of a parent.

2. Keep Busy

Pick up a new hobby or return to a neglected one. Reconnect with old friends. Learn recipes and prepare fantastic meals. Join a book club. Take yoga courses. By pursuing activities you enjoy, you keep busy and avoid from dwelling on the emptiness at home.

3. Practice Mindfulness

It can be tempting to live in the future, such as focusing on when your child will be home for a visit next. Practice mindfulness to focus on the present. Basic meditation and deep breathing also combat anxiety, which worrisome parents may struggle with when kids are far away.

4. Stay in Touch

Skype, FaceTime, email, and texting—the possibilities for keeping in touch with your kids are endless. Stay in regular contact with your child, but don’t overdo it by calling daily. This will not help either of you while adjusting.

5. Seek External Support

Talk to your spouse, family or friends about your feelings. Others who have shared the “empty nest” experience can provide valuable support. 

If you still find yourself struggling to enjoy your new life, consider talking to a licensed professional counselor. A therapist can provide a safe space for you to share emotions you might not express elsewhere. With their guidance, you can start to see a brighter future for yourself.

If adjusting to an empty nest has been a challenge for you, trust Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP. This licensed professional counselor has more than 20 years of experience, and she has helped many clients through difficult transitions. She offers both individual and couple’s counseling, so you and your partner can discuss your feelings together if desired. Request an appointment with the licensed professional counselor by using the online form or calling (585) 734-6826.