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Of all the emotionally difficult aspects getting a divorce entails, few are as overwhelming as explaining it to your children. Even if you’re certain that dissolving the marriage is in everyone’s best interests, kids are likely to be afraid, confused, and angry. As painful as the conversation with them may be, some planning and a few tips from experienced divorce lawyers can give them the peace of mind they need.

A Guide to Discussing Divorce With Your Kids

1. Don’t Rush It

Because the conversation can be so awkward, many parents are tempted to get the discussion over with as soon as possible. However, the more time you spend with your kids, the more valued and secure they’ll feel in the end. Set aside a few hours to talk to your children and have the conversation at home where they’ll feel free to express themselves.

2. Be Honest

Understandably, your children will want to know why the family is breaking up, and they deserve an honest answer. Give them an age-appropriate response and let them know that the divorce has nothing to do with them. In the absence of any other information, children tend to blame themselves.

3. Have a Plan

divorce lawyerYour children will also have questions about where they will go and how often they will get to see their friends. Before speaking to your kids, try to work out the living arrangements with your spouse and divorce lawyer so you can give concrete answers to their concerns.

4. Avoid Fighting

No matter how acrimonious your relationship with your spouse has become, avoid fighting or casting blame in front of your children. Arguments and debates should be confined to your therapist’s or divorce lawyer’s office.

5. Tell Them You Love Them

The most important aspect of the conversation is reminding your children that, even though you and your spouse no longer love one another, your feelings toward your kids have not changed. Tell them you love them and give your spouse space to do the same.

 

Since 1987, the divorce lawyers at the Knochel Law Office has been protecting the rights of clients throughout Nevada, California, and Arizona. If you’re dissolving your marriage, you can depend on these accomplished attorneys to provide the in-depth legal advice and compassionate service you need. To schedule a consultation with a legal representative, visit their website or call (928) 444-1000. You can also follow their Facebook page for more tips and updates.

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