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When you have a friend in an abusive relationship, you might be tempted to offer a few encouraging words and give them the phone number of a skilled divorce attorney. But supporting a friend as they try to break free from a cycle of abuse is complicated, and it can take a long time for them to be ready to speak with a lawyer. If you’re facing this difficult situation, keep a few thoughts in mind when you try to help.

Divorce Attorney Tips for Supporting a Friend in an Abusive Relationship

1. Don’t Judge

The solution to an unhealthy relationship might seem simple to you: just leave. However, there are many reasons a victim might be unwilling or unable to do this, including self-doubt caused by their abuser. Pushing a friend to depart could do more harm than good and damage your relationship with them.

2. Be Understanding

Try to be open to your friend's perspective on the situation and their needs. Reassure them they don't deserve the abuse. Tell them you understand their ordeal is complicated and still care for them no matter the decision they make.

3. Don’t Intervene Without Permission

Divorce attorney New Kensington PAIf you’re aware of ongoing abuse, you might want to confront the offender on your friend's behalf. But even if you have a momentary victory, the abuser could take it out on them later. Take cues from your friend about ways to help.

4. Call 911 in a Crisis

While it usually is best to wait to react to a conflict, make an exception if you witness physical violence. If you’re present during an assault, seek safety and call the authorities to handle the situation. In the event of a physical attack with witnesses, law enforcement officers can keep your friend safe.

5. Don’t Give Their Partner Ammunition

A major part of an abuser's method is to separate the victim from sources of support. While you might express concern about your friend's relationship, don't nag them about it or push them to see a divorce attorney. The abuser might use this as an excuse to insist your friend stay away from you, preventing you from offering help.

If you have a friend involved in an abusive relationship, the best thing you can do is be supportive and available to them. When they're ready to leave their abuser, you'll be there to help.

 

Bitar & Bitar, LLP, in New Kensington, PA, offers free consultations with divorce attorneys and personal injury attorneys in Westmoreland County. If you need advice about a family law matter, call (724) 339-1025, extension 311, to schedule an appointment. You also can contact them online, where you’ll find more information about the firm.

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