A divorce is always painful, but it is particularly challenging for kids struggling to understand the “new normal” in their lives. Fortunately, there are several things you can do to help support and guide your children during this time of transition. Family law attorney Thomas A. Corletta, Attorney at Law, has been providing legal advice and counsel to the Rochester, New York, area for over 35 years. Below, he shares three tips to help kids cope with divorce.

3 Tips To Help Kids Cope With Divorce

1. Help Your Child Understand They Aren't At Fault & They Are Loved

In many divorce situations, the children tend to find a way to blame themselves for the breakup of the marriage. To counteract this natural tendency, express to your child that they are not at fault and that they are loved and valued. Get in the habit of consistently telling your child these things, and you'll nurture their self-esteem during a very challenging time.

2. Encourage Your Child To Talk Openly

Your kids are going to have a lot of feelings about your divorce, and if lawyers and family law courts start to intervene in the legal aspect of the process, their feelings are only going to intensify. Let your child know that they are supported and safe and that it's important they share their feelings. Ask them questions about what's on their mind, and don't censor what they have to say. Talk to them in age-appropriate terms without sugarcoating, and create a safe environment for them to talk openly, honestly, and without restraint.

3. Ask For Help

A divorce is rarely a stress-free experience, so don't be afraid to ask for help. Turn to trusted friends and family members to help you nurture and encourage the children, and never be hesitant to contact a therapist to facilitate better communication and healing for the whole family. You're setting a good example for your kids by showing that it's perfectly acceptable to ask for help and reach out to others during difficult times.

If you are going through a divorce and need quality legal advice and counsel, call lawyer Thomas A. Corletta, Attorney at Law, at (585) 546-5072. You can also visit his firm on Facebook and Twitter to stay updated on relevant news, information, and legal advice. By making your kids a priority during your divorce, you can provide the love, hope, and resources they need.